Across the country, there’s a silent frustration brewing about an age-old practice that many say is getting out of hand: tipping.
Some fed-up consumers are postingcomplaining about tip requests at drive-thrus, while others say they’re tired of being asked to leave a gratuity for a muffin or a simple cup of coffee at their neighborhood bakery. What’s next, they wonder — are we going to be tipping our doctors and dentists, too?
As more businesses adopt digital payment methods, customers are automatically being prompted to leave a gratuity — many times as high as 30% — at places they normally wouldn’t. And some say it has become more frustrating as the price of items has skyrocketed due to inflation, which eased to anbut still remains painfully high.
“And they’re talking about 18% gratuity is already included in the bill. Girl, it’s water,” one person.
“Suddenly, these screens are at every establishment we encounter. They’re popping up online as well for online orders. And I fear that there is no end,” said etiquette expert Thomas Farley, who considers the whole thing somewhat of “an invasion .”
Social pressure from screen prompts
Unlike tip jars that shoppers can easily ignore if they don’t have spare change, experts say the digital requests can produce social pressure and are more difficult to bypass. And your generosity, or lack thereof, can be laid bare for anyone close enough to glance at the screen — including the workers themselves.
Dylan Schenker is one of them. The 38-year-old earns about $400 a month in tips, which provides a helpful supplement to his $15 hourly wage as a barista at a Philadelphia café located inside a restaurant. Most of those tips come from consumers who order coffee drinks or interact with the café for other things, such as carryout orders. The gratuity helps cover his monthly rent and eases some of his burdens while he attends graduate school and juggles his job.
Schenker says it’s hard to sympathize with consumers who are able to afford pricey coffee drinks but complain about tipping. And he often feels demoralized when people don’t leave behind anything extra—especially if they’re regulars.
“Tipping is about making sure the people who are performing that service for you are getting paid for what they’re owed,” said Schenker, who’s been working in the service industry for roughly 18 years. But he added that it is chiefly up to an employer to ensure employees are fairly paid.
“The onus should absolutely be on the owners, but that doesn’t change overnight,” he said. “And this is the best thing we have right now.”
Traditionally, consumers have taken pride in being good tipsters at places like restaurants, which typically pay their workers lower than the minimum wage in expectation they’ll make up the difference in tips. Wages for restaurant workers vary widely from state to state, with hourly pay in some states frozen at $2.13 an hour, according to data from the Department of Labor.
But academics who study the topic say many consumers are now feeling irritated by automatic tip requests at coffee shops and other counter service eateries where tipping has not typically been expected, workers make at leastand service is usually limited.
After being prompted on a website to leave a 20% tip after ordering a pizza for pickup, one flabbergasted customer immediately voiced his frustration on social media. “20%? For what? What did you do?” a TikTok user asked in a video that has since garnered over a million views.
“People do not like unsolicited advice,” said Ismail Karabas, a marketing professor at Murray State University who studies tipping. “They don’t like to be asked for things, especially at the wrong time.”
“It makes you feel bad”
Some of the requests can also come from odd places. Clarissa Moore, a 35-year-old who works as a supervisor at a utility company in Pennsylvania, said even her mortgage company has been asking for tips lately. Typically, she’s happy to leave a gratuity at restaurants, and sometimes at coffee shops and other fast-food places when the service is good.
But, Moore said she believes consumers shouldn’t be asked to tip nearly everywhere they go — and it shouldn’t be something that’s expected of them.
“It makes you feel bad. You feel like you have to do it because they’re asking you to do it,” she said. “But then you have to think about the position that puts people in. They’re paying for something that they really don’t want to pay for, or they’re tipping when they really don’t want to tip — or can’ t afford to tip — because they don’t want to feel bad.”
In the book “Emily Post’s Etiquette,” authors Lizzie Post and Daniel Post Senning advise consumers to tip on ride-shares, like Uber and Lyft, as well as food and beverages, including alcohol. But they also write that it’s up to each person to choose how much to tip at a café or a take-out food service, and that consumers shouldn’t feel embarrassed about choosing the lowest suggested tip amount, and don’t have to explain themselves if they don’t tip.
Digital payment methods have been around for a number of years, although experts say the pandemic has accelerated the trend toward more tipping. Michael Lynn, a consumer behavior professor at Cornell University, said consumers were more generous with tips during the early days of the pandemic in an effort to show support for restaurants and other businesses that were. Many people genuinely wanted to help out and felt sympathetic to workers who held jobs that put them more at risk of catching the virus, Lynn said.
“It’s a relatively new phenomenon,” Dipayan Biswas, marketing and business professor at the University of South Florida,.
Professor Biswas has studied tipping for a decade. Like Cornell’s Lynn, he says this new tipping trend started with the boom of digital kiosks, then the pandemic “added flow to that fire,” plus inflation and more businesses allowing tips to make jobs more lucrative at your expense.
“I see it becoming more widespread,” Biswas said.
Bigger tips at restaurants
Tips at full-service restaurants grew by 25.3% in the third quarter of 2022, while gratuities at quick or counter service restaurants went up 16.7% compared to the same time in 2021, according to Square, one of the biggest companies operating digital payment methods . Data provided by the company shows continuous growth for the same period since 2019.
As tip requests have become more common, some businesses are advertising it in their job postings to lure in more workers even though the extra money isn’t always guaranteed.
Danny Meyer, CEO of the upscale Union Square Restaurant Group,that his restaurants would be moving away from a five-year-long when they reopened after being closed for months at the outset of the coronavirus.
The company, which owns Gramercy Tavern and Union Square Cafe, laid off more than 2,000 workers after New York ordered restaurants to close in 2020. Concerns that workers wouldn’t return without the lure of gratuities were a big factor in the decision to reinstate tipping , Meyer said on LinkedIn at the time in announcing the decision.
In December, Starbucks rolled out a new tipping option on credit and debit card transactions at its stores, something a group organizing the company’s hourly workers had called for. Since then, a Starbucks spokesperson said nearly half of credit and debit card transactions have included a gratuity, which — along with tips received through cash and the Starbucks app — are distributed based on the number of hours a barista worked on the days the tips were received.
Karabas, the Murray State professor, said some customers, like those who’ve worked in the service industry in the past, want to tip workers at quick service businesses and wouldn’t be irritated by the automatic requests. But for others, research shows they might be less likely to come back to a particular business if they are feeling irritated by the requests, he said.
Analysts at tech company Branch point to a “tipping recession,” as ongoing inflation causes a shift in US consumers’ attitude. Since the start of COVID-19, the number of restaurant goers who tip has been in steady decline, dropping to 73% in 2022 from 77% in 2019, according to a poll from Creditcards.com.
The final tab might also impact how customers react. Karabas said in the research he did with other academics, they manipulated the payment amounts and found that when the check was high, consumers no longer felt as irritated by the tip requests. That suggests the best time for a coffee shop to ask for that 20% tip, for example, might be on four or five orders of coffee, not a small cup that costs $4.
Some consumers might continue to shrug off the tip requests regardless of the amount.
“If you work for a company, it’s that company’s job to pay you for doing work for them,” said Mike Janavey, a footwear and clothing designer who lives in New York City. “They’re not supposed to be juicing consumers that are already spending money there to pay their employees.”